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"You Dropped Out! Why Can't I?"

Dear Editor:

I just had a terrible fight with my mother and I need some advice. I am sick and tired of going to high school and I want to quit but my mother won't let me. She dropped out of school when she was in Grade 10 so I don't think she is being fair by forcing me to go to school if I don't want to. Please tell me what I should do. I know I am old enough to leave home, but I really don't want to go that far. Can you help me convince my mother to listen to me?

Signed: Jenny

 

Dear Jenny:

You may not like what I am about to say, but I would ask you to read through my entire answer before coming to any conclusion.

First of all, I think you should take a deep breath; read through the rest of this web site; and find the motivation necessary to finish high school. If you don't, believe me, you will regret it dearly when you get older. The odds are absolutely, positively stacked against young people who do not have at least a high school diploma today. And believe me, it is much more difficult to come back to complete high school when you are in your 20's and 30's.

I am going to share a story with you that was sent to me by a lady by the name of Rosalie Notter. It is quite ironic that I received her letter just a few days before receiving yours. The message is pretty clear and if you "fast-forward" your life to the future, you may see yourself writing a similar letter if you quit high school today.

Rosalie went to school at Lockerby Composite School, a high school in the City of Greater Sudbury. She attended the school in the early 1960's, a time when there were plenty of jobs around for high school drop outs. It is very similar today. There are plenty of minimum wage jobs around for high school drop outs.  Rosalie tells us about her life after she left Lockerby:
 

I would like to tell you a little about my life since leaving Lockerby Comp.  

I dropped out after Grade 10, got married, had four children and moved to Red Lake, Ontario.  

I worked at a lot of jobs throughout my life - all minimum wages.  Don't get me wrong, I loved being a waitress, produce manager, bakery and cake decorator, cabin cleaner etc. 

My kids grew up and were in high school. One of them was talking about dropping out.  I pleaded with her to stay in school. She continually told me "You dropped out, why can't I?"  

I decided to go back and get my grade 12.  

I did.  It was the hardest thing that I ever did.  I worked full time, kept house and finished raising my children and finally I graduated.  What a wonderful feeling. 

My children watched me very closely and most time they were my greatest cheering section.  When I thought I just couldn't do it, one of them would say "I'm pulling for you mom."  

I could not go to my high school graduation party because my daughter's college graduation was held at the same time.  It was worth it to see her receive her diploma.  

Many times during those years that I was struggling to balance all the things in my life and get my grade 12, I recalled the teachers at Lockerby Comp who were always so encouraging to me.  They said I could do anything that I put my mind to.  

Today, I try to give back what I learned. I work at an Adult Learning Centre.  I am helping the other adults who dropped out.  It is such a rewarding job.

Thought I would share that with you.

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

Rosalie Notter, (nee Forsyth)

   
So you see, Jenny, you may want to drop out now for any number of reasons. The trouble is that you will eventually want to return to get that Grade 12 diploma. You will likely be forced to return to get that Grade 12 diploma. And it is so much easier for you to pull up your socks and go for it now! Do it while you are young. You have a whole life ahead of you and you can do anything you put your mind to.

Listen to your mother, Jenny. Go out right now and give her a big hug. Ask her to stand behind you and help you find the strength to get through the next couple of years. She will be there. And she will be very proud of whatever you accomplish.

Good luck, Jenny. Let me know how things turn out.

Robert Kirwan, Editor

 
 
  

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