It
has often been said that a person’s life is the sum total of his/her
experiences. On the surface that seems like a simple enough statement, but
if one accepts this premise, then why do so many of us engage in practices
and activities which are negative and actually hurt us.
Consider
the family of five who decided one day to each clean a different area of
the home. They each took a sponge, did the cleaning, and then placed the
sponges back on the kitchen counter top. The sponges all looked the
same.
A
visitor came along who was curious as to what was cleaned in the home, but
couldn’t tell by looking since the sponges all looked the same. So, in
order to satisfy his curiosity, he decided to squeeze each sponge to see
what came out.
When
the first sponge was squeezed, some cola came out, so the visitor decided
that someone cleaned the kitchen with that one.
Upon
squeezing the second sponge, he found tub and tile cleaner and concluded
that this sponge was used to clean the bathtub.
The
third sponge produced motor oil when squeezed, so obviously, someone was
cleaning the garage.
In
the fourth sponge, baby powder came puffing out when it was squeezed,
which meant that the baby’s nursery was done with that one.
And
finally, in the last one was floor wax, which was used on the hall floor.
As
the visitor lay the last sponge down, he again remarked at their
similarity. They all look the same until they’re squeezed.
People
are the same way.
As
life squeezes us, different things come out. Some people get angry; some
seek revenge; some shed tears; some laugh; some look upon life as
wonderful; others have a negative view of everything; some show their love
for one another; others think only of themselves.
We
must all remember that we are no different from a sponge. We can only
squeeze out what is put in. If we look for the good in others and try to
carry a positive attitude around with us wherever we go, then as life
squeezes us we will have a better chance of coping. If we are constantly
finding fault with others and forever look for excuses for our behaviour,
when life squeezes us we may not like what comes out.
This
is a lesson to which all young parents should pay particular attention.
The experiences your children have while they are growing up will
determine how they respond to challenges as adults. Children are like
sponges, taking in everything you provide. If you instill positive family
values in a child from the time he/she is born, then those values will
form part of the child’s personality later on in life. If you show your
child how to love, he/she has a better chance of being a loving person. If
you demonstrate that you respect all forms of life, so too will your
children. However, if you are disrespectful of authority; show that you
don’t care about the quality of your work; and disregard the rights of
others, don’t expect your children to be any different.
When you line people up side by side, they all look similar. Just
as it is with the sponges on the kitchen counter, you don’t know where
they’ve been until you squeeze them. Once squeezed, the secret is out,
and you can rest assured that on the journey of life we will all be
squeezed many times. All we can do is make sure that what we put into our
life is what we want to come out when the proper time calls for it.
Have a good week!
