February 14, 2001

"I Don't Understand Life" A Lot Of Questions With No Answers

One of the girls in my Grade 7 class, Stephanie Bennett, wrote an essay recently which touched my heart. As adults we often think that children are arrogant and cocky, acting like they have all of the answers. In fact, they are usually the complete opposite. They are the ones with all of the questions. And the questions they ask are no different from the ones that adults struggle with every day.

Stephanie’s essay is entitled, “Losing Someone...” I think you will enjoy it and I know it will make you realize that no one has answers to the really important questions of the day.

“I believe losing someone to death is the hardest thing a person can endure. People think death is scary, which is possibly true. I think dying in a hospital is the worst. My Grandpa died in a hospital and watching dad cry was the hardest.

I was seven but devastated. I remember when I used to take candy from his candy dish. When he caught me he’d say something like, “Don’t you like the black candy babies?” I would say “yes” even though I don’t, just to make him happy.

I don’t understand life. When we die, do we go to Heaven or Hell? How can the Lord judge someone by good or bad? Some people live a meaningless life where they are abused each day and slavery rules. Why would God want people to suffer? Did I lead a previous life? Who is my Guardian Angel? Are the apocalypse predictions true?

My Dad and Grandpa were going to go on a ski trip to Alaska, but Grandpa had a stroke and couldn’t go. I plan, when I’m older, to take my Dad before it’s too late for him too. Life is a precious thing from God, and we should live life to the fullest.”

 I don’t have any answers for you Stephanie. Oh, I’m sure many people could give you their explanations, but when all is said and done the final conclusion will still come down to the fact that no one really understands life.

Why do bad things happen to good people? Why do some people suffer so much and other people go through life with no problems or worries? Who decides? Is life all planned out when we are born? Do we really have any control over our own destiny?

Life is a mystery. So it stands to reason that death would be even more of a mystery. You are not alone, Stephanie. But I must say that you are years ahead of yourself in terms of wisdom. You understand that life is precious and that we should all live life to the fullest. You also understand that if you want to do something with a loved one, the earlier the better. You never know when you will get a second chance. Enjoy your skiing trip with your Dad. I know he will love every minute of it.

For the rest of us, let’s remember that it doesn’t hurt to ask questions. Without questions we would never have an opportunity to think about answers, and we would never have an opportunity to realize that life is just one big mystery with no solution.

Take Stephanie’s advice. Go on that skiing trip with your parents. Plan that vacation with your children. Spend a weekend away in a cabin alone with your wife. Send your wife a bouquet of flowers for no reason. Don’t wait until it’s too late - you never know when you’ll get that second chance.

Have a good week!
 
 

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